“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.” ― George Bernard Shaw
I never elected to be a single parent but unfortunately things happen in life that sometimes we have no control over. Rather than play the victim I made the decision to take responsibility for my actions than opt for the easy way out.
As the years passed since having my son it soon became apparent that there seemed to be this preconceived perception of single mothers. We were either: on benefits, churning kids out one after the other, lazy or raising bad children to name a few… I never realised that my family structure bore license for criticism from strangers let alone friends and even an ex-partner.
I become so obsessed with this label as if were pinned to my back in it’s literal context that I tried aimlessly to rid myself of it. So much so that I slipped into mild depression.
But I am not a stereotype.
I am a single parent that works 37 ½ hours per week in order to provide for my child. I am not a perfect mum but the best mum that I can be right now trying her utmost best to raise a happy and healthy son with a cultivated sense of self. I want my son to develop a level of understanding from my experiences that there is absolutely nothing standing in his way but himself and that he can attain anything he desires as long as he puts in the work.
Against all odds I have dealt with adversity and stereotypes and even overcame depression being a single parent. No matter how much my goals and ambitions were challenged from lack of support to clash of timetables and childcare. I still persevered and to date still working hard on conquering all I have set out to achieve in this life.
So watch this space!
In response to: Daily Prompt