“There were two ways to be happy: improve your reality, or lower your expectations”
― Jodi Picoult
Expectations… So many of us seem to have them. Whether it is through beliefs imposed on us from childhood, the reckoning of being successful to even expectations in love.
But what are they you ask? Well according to the dictionary expectations are the belief about or (mental pictures of) the future.
When our expectations are not met it can create a ripple effect within other domains of our lives creating a sense of imbalance and invoking disappointment, anger, annoyance and sadness because these limitations one way of putting it have not been achieved.
A lot of us tend to want external things because we believe it will alleviate some sort of need or lead to some form of fulfillment. When really we are just masking the real issue at hand.
Now don’t get me wrong there is absolutely nothing wrong with having achievable self-expectations of yourself in comparison to non-contingent expectations. But by setting the bar too high you are almost certainly setting yourself up to fail.
“You are your own worst enemy. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself and others, you may find the happiness that has always eluded you.”
― Lisa Kleypas
Most of us tend to hold ourselves back by succumbing to burdensome expectations. There have been many times where I have done so myself.
But what I want you to understand is that you do not need to live under the tyranny of expectations any longer. In fact it is time to set yourself free. Free to lead a life with no expectations but instead certainty and peace. 🙂
Below are a few good websites for further reading:
Weekly Writing Challenge: Great Expectations